If you have come to this section of the website because you need to arrange a funeral then this is likely to be a difficult time for you. Whether your loved one was living in our parish at the time of death or has close links to the parish or St Matthew’s we hope that we will be able to assist you in both the initial, practical details of planning a funeral but also in providing on-going support. We work closely with all the local funeral directors and are used to dealing with the issues which you will be facing.
If you are planning a funeral, one of the first decisions you will need to make is whether you want the funeral service to be at the Crematorium or Cemetery or in Church. You might like to bear in mind that the costs of having a service in church – either before the burial or cremation or after as a Remembrance or Thanksgiving Service – are not considerable and may give you more opportunity to acknowledge the death and celebrate the life of the deceased.
If you are having to organise a funeral at this time and feel up to it, reading the funeral pages of the Church of England website for funerals may be really useful. There is a wealth of information there and it will help to steer you through the decisions which may need to be made. But please do telephone Rev Helen Hancock (on 020 8390 3829) if you would like assistance; either to talk through the options, perhaps to see if St Matthew’s is available for a service or for other help.
You may like to watch this brief video (produced by the Diocese but featuring Helen) in which she explains a little more about ‘a good funeral‘. Don’t miss her final words at the end of the video as well as at the beginning!
Christianity brings a message of hope even at the most difficult times. As Christians, although we don’t understand it fully, we believe that the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ show God’s love for us and assures us that that this love accompanies us now and into eternal life.
Each Autumn, we hold a service of remembering and thanksgiving to which we invite the families of those whose funerals we have conducted during the year. Many people find this a helpful and fitting way to remember again formally those they have loved and lost in a quiet service of remembrance and informally over refreshments.